Yes, I’ve Changed
I keep on hearing these words lately from my friends. They keep on telling me “You’ve changed.”
I always respond with a big YES.
It is a bit odd (and to be honest a bit funny) for me why they keep on saying it.
Are we not supposed to change?
I think, most of them only see the ‘gap’ of the change they are referring to. The gap between the Roneth they once knew and the Roneth they see today.
But for me, the change was not drastic. The change was subtle and slow. The change was my everyday decision to choose what I want and what works best for me.
The change was gradual.
I did a lot of practice to reach the decisiveness of choosing the things that make me comfortable and the things that I believe will help me to be the person I want to be in the future.
And yes, I’ve changed.
I used to think that those words (“You’ve Changed”) were a bit confusing, but as I keep on hearing them, those words actually help me to keep on reflecting on why I need to change. Why the change was necessary.
Thinking about what I was like when I was a teen or in my early 20s is like riding a roller coaster ride with flashes of me with the perspective I have back then. It is fun to recall the girl I was before and the girl who helps me to be the person I am now.
I am grateful for the different versions of me. I am happy that I explored and dive deep to know myself better. I admired myself to face all of my insecurities and to have the courage to silently fight the battles within me.
So for those, who keep on saying ‘You’ve Changed’.
I want to tell you that yes, I’ve changed and I am constantly evolving.
I think we should always choose to keep on changing, to keep finding the meaning of life, to search for the happiness we long for, and to just keep on changing for the better.
So for you who are reading this, we should not want to stay the same. Let’s keep on evolving.
Jeane Louise Mainit
Roneth, it is always good to change. It may be unsettling for some, but it is a good way to turn over a new leaf. Do what you need to do, and continue to grow accordingly. Bloom even at the environment where you are not planted. 🙂
Roneth Politud
Yes to that! Thank you Jeane!
Jullian
This is a shockingly deep topic for something simple as a statement like “You’ve Changed”. Not everyone gets a peek at how a person changes over time. I love how you pointed out that only you get to see all the subtleties in the changes you’re undergoing 🙂
Roneth Politud
Are you surprised that I am deep? Hahaha. Thank you Jullian for appreciating my point of view!! 🙂
GJ Perino
Super Change Roneth! I never knew you’ll start 2021 with a deep talks about yourself and I agree with you that change is gradual!
Fernan Salibongcogon
Your reflection resonates with me as I deal with frequent changes in every aspect of my life from home to work. Though no one yet has ever dared me to say “I’ve changed!”, I can feel it from within and by interacting with the environment. Everyone has to learn how to embrace the changes because there is no growth without it. As humans, we are constantly changing.
Pam B
Change is inevitable and we can only hope that the changes we make in our lives will make us better people.
armiegarde
Whether change for the better or otherwise, we all do. If we want to grow, learn, and transform our lives or other people, we must be open for change. And yes, I agree with you, Roneth, that change is subtle and slow. We must also honor all the changes we go through. 🙂 Thank you for the good read, Roneth.
Sheila
That’s the spirit, Roneth! And I totally agree with you. We should always seek for ways to evolve. We can’t just let ourselves get stuck in our old ways and expect different results in life, career, and love. I’m rooting for this brave girl!
Marie Angelique Villamor
I agree. We must not be afraid of the change and let us face it, that is the only constant in this world. If things change, then we should also change for the better. People, of course, will notice us change – be it drastic or subtle. But we just need to embrace our changes wholeheartedly despite what they think about it. Rock on, Girl!
Reck Adventures
Change is the only constant in this world. People often tell the same story even now. I just tell them I am still the person person but better.